Topic: Improve Relationships

Romantic Relationships Ain’t Rocket Science, ‘til They Crash and Burn

According to an article at Psychologytoday.com, there are 7 Secrets to a Successful Relationship. According to PsychCentral.com there are 5 Secrets to a Successful Relationship, and according to LifeHack.com, there are 10 Keys to a Successful Relationship. I can’t help but wonder though, if there aren’t as many secrets to success in romantic relationships as there are people in a relationship – or who want to be.

Having displayed my skepticism of there being such simple answers to such a complex and timeless question, it does seem that we can grasp at least a few simple concepts that will serve to enhance and strengthen a long-term romantic relationship.

5 Keys to a Lasting Relationship

Respect – While never mentioned explicitly […]

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Why You Suck at Relationships

Not to put too fine a point on it but, if you suck at relationships it’s most likely because you suck at interpersonal communication.

Of course, all of us have differing skill sets, the things at which we excel. For some, that is communicating well with others. For some, not so much. The good news is, just about anything can be learned and the ability to communicate well with others is one of the skills that you can improve.

It should not have to be said, but does, that effective communication is an important life skill that enables you to better understand and connect with the people around you. It enables you to build respect and trust, resolve differences, and foster environments […]

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Understanding the Fleeting Nature of Modern Relationships

Modern relationships can be a mixed bag: family and friends may make unreasonable demands on your time and energy; business associates may support you one day and stab you in the back the next; while romantic partners may reinforce your love for them one day, only to use emotional blackmail to force you in a direction you’d rather not move.

From “In a relationship” to “It’s complicated”, relationships today bear little resemblance to those from a generation or two ago. Today, relationships of all types are more tenuous than in the past, and people seem fine with ending them at a moment’s notice. Often, at the first sign of problems, either or both parties involved seem all too willing to end […]

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You Have 3 Solutions to Every Problem Situation or Relationship

“There are three solutions to every problem: accept it, change it leave it.” – Anonymous

Imagine for a moment the following: Three people are working for a boss with a reputation as a relentless driver of others, pushing them to produce or find employment elsewhere. For the employee with a similar personality, driven to succeed at all costs, working for this person is ideal and they excel in such an environment.

For the person who is an outside the box thinker, this type of approach toward all on the team is unrealistic and less than productive, so they work to alter the boss’s approach and expectations. For our third employee, the compulsive goading and obsessive ambition are simply too much to take, […]

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In Relationships: Opposites Attract – But Do They Stick Together?

Yeah, it’s complicated.

For example, a quick Google search of the phrase “relationships opposites attract” brings up consecutive articles at the Psychology Today website which argue both sides of the issue, offering “proof” that people are happier in relationships with their opposite – and that they’re not.

Here are a couple of examples:

Pro opposites attract: “While security, safety, closeness, and comfort are certainly qualities that characterize all fulfilling relationships, without a balance of excitement, passion, adventure, risk, and yes, even a certain degree of separateness, security becomes boredom, dependability becomes indifference, intimacy becomes claustrophobia, and comfort becomes stagnation.” (com)
Con opposites attract: “Studies have found that people are more likely to be attracted to and pursue romantic relationships with individuals who are […]

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