When did “work/life balance” become the Holy Grail of personal satisfaction and fulfillment – as well as the domain of online coaches?
After all, it doesn’t seem an outrageous concept – work/life balance includes proper prioritizing between “work” (career and ambition) and “lifestyle” (health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development/meditation). Why would finding balance between the two be so difficult for so many?
I believe there is a mindset that has become pervasive in the West, and which has inevitably created dissatisfaction for many: let’s call it the dissonance between who you are vs. what you do. I use the word dissonance deliberately here because, you’ll never find balance between work and life if those two aspects of your self-identity are out of tune with each other.
How Your Work Defines You
Do you understand the difference between “What you do” and “Who you are?” No? Would you like to know why?
It’s because there IS no difference. In fact, what you do IS who you are!
Far too many people today struggle for “balance” in their lives, making the mistake of believing that “Who they are as a person” has nothing to do with “what they do” for a living. This leads to disorientation and a sense of internal conflict. Known as cognitive dissonance, this internal conflict is created when your beliefs do not conform to reality.
It’s my belief that we all know intuitively that what we choose to do for a living reflects perfectly who we are inside. Claiming to be “better” than your behavior indicates is a false premise; while claiming that who you are, or wish to be, is different from the things you do every day can only lead to emotional conflict.
Since your actions are a direct reflection of “Who you really are,” claiming to be something else is disingenuous at best, and misleading at worst; not only to others, but also to yourself.
If you’re in emotional turmoil because your actions do not reflect who you “really” are, or believe yourself to be – or wish to be, then you must either change your actions – or your beliefs. Otherwise, you’ll remain in eternal conflict with yourself and will never resolve the issues that are causing you so much pain.
Knowing yourself, and behaving accordingly, is the only way to find balance in life, regardless of the work you do or the person you “believe” yourself to be. Instead, make sure that what you CHOOSE to do for a living reflects who you are and AFFIRMS the things you believe in. If you can do this, you’ll be far, far happier for it, believe me.
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